On Not Giving a Fuck

I am 41 years old and feel as though I am living my life locked in a box, even with the pandemic I feel as though I could be doing more by way of living and appreciating life.

I am giving too many fucks as of late.

Let's define not giving a fuck: Not giving a fuck is not worrying about things, it is about not caring about the 300-pound gorilla that sits on your back. It is about throwing all your worries out the window and just focusing on smiling, having fun in what you are doing, and doing things that make you happy.

It is not a bad thing to not give a fuck, it does not mean not taking care of yourself or not taking care of the shit that needs to get done. It does not mean you stop caring about the ones you love. It does not mean you break the laws or do things you regret.

There is a responsible way to not give a fuck that will bring joy and happiness to your life.

Not giving a fuck takes courage, it takes you pushing away negative feelings that you have and not letting in the negative emotions of others. It really is about being your authentic self and nothing else, you put up the authentic self wall and you don’t let anyone else’s shit in. There are times those around you seem to be in a constant funk, well funk that…..see what I did there, made me laugh…… you need to be you, you cannot get lost in other people's swamps.

When the oxygen mask is deployed make sure to put yours on first so if needed you can truly be there for others. If not needed you just saved your own life.

You have to have at least one day a week, at the very least one day, that you just don’t give a fuck. It should be about fun, life is too short not to have fun. Go to work, or Zoom to work and make a fun spectacle of yourself, no one else will and it will feel good,

Also trying to go out with friends can be tough so why give a fuck. Schedules don’t seem to work, nothing ever lines up the right way. There is always so much else that needs to be done that life gets in the way of life. Why care, you will eventually see them.

I mean why care in the best way possible — control what you can control and control that shit all the way. Enough is enough, nothing comes easy as I am in a string of bad luck, I need to stop going after things and let the things come to me. Just be me and don’t give a fuck.

Make things easy, cut out the bullshit, and just say fuck it.